Confucius said: “Don’t be concerned about other people failing to acknowledge your merits; be concerned about failing to acknowledge their merits.”
Leadership isn’t a popularity contest. It’s not a race for fame and fortune. It’s a constant process of “carving and polishing stones” to sharpen your ability to build and develop a self-sustaining team that requires minimal intervention from you in how it operates.
That means setting the right example for your people to follow and paying close attention to each of them in order to understand their strengths and weaknesses and the motivations that drive them. It also requires figuring out the best ways of communicating with them and providing them with the right opportunities to further develop their abilities and skill sets.
If you receive recognition for the contribution you make in helping people to grow, that’s great. But it shouldn’t be your primary goal. The quiet satisfaction you gain from making a tangible difference to their lives is worth far more than the most prestigious awards and the loudest rounds of applause.
This article features a translation of Chapter 16 of Book 1 of the Analects of Confucius. This is the final chapter in the book. You can read my full translation of Book 1 here.
I took this image at the Temple of Confucius in Qufu during a trip to the sage’s home town in December 2016. Qufu is only a couple of hours away from Beijing by High Speed Train. In addition to the Temple of Confucius, there are plenty of other fascinating sites to see. Even if you’re not a Confucius nerd like I am, it’s a great place for a weekend break. You can read more about the temple here.