Zixia said: “If a man values character over beauty, devotes himself to serving his parents, dedicates his life to his ruler, and is true to his word with his friends, I’ll insist he’s learned even if others think otherwise.” (1)
Actions speak louder than words. As a leader you should focus on people who go about their daily work with quiet determination rather than those who attempt to grab your attention by saying all the right words and pushing themselves to the center stage by grabbing all the highest-profile assignments.
A renowned scholar of the classics himself, Zixia shared Confucius’s view that learning is accomplished far more effectively by active doing than passive studying. To him, the key to being learned is based on conducting your relationships with your spouse, parents, ruler, and friends in the right manner. Interacting with others in society in an ethical way is far more important than your knowledge of the arts and literature.
This article features a translation of Chapter 7 of Book 1 of The Analects of Confucius. You can read my full translation of Book 1 here.
(1) The meaning of the opening phrase 賢賢易色 is rather ambiguous. Given that the subsequent sections refer to how a man should behave towards his parents, ruler, and friends, it is reasonable to assume that it refers to loving his wife for her personal qualities rather than out of lust for her physical appearance.
I took this image at the Temple of Confucius in Qufu. You can read more about it here.