The rites (禮/lǐ) is a flexible term that describes the loosely connected web of formal religious, political, and cultural ceremonies and unwritten rules of behavior that govern smooth interactions between people and ensure social stability.
Confucius saw the rites as the embodiment of a civilized society and believed that they had reached their peak during the golden age at the beginnings of the Zhou dynasty when it flourished under the enlightened leadership of his hero the Duke of Zhou. Throughout The Analects, he regularly calls for the restoration of them to their former glory and issues venomous rants against quite an array of individuals for violating and even usurping them for their own nefarious purposes.
In Book 1, Confucius is relatively restrained on the subject, limiting himself to a subtle rebuke to Zigong in Chapter XV when responding to a quotation that his wealthy disciple makes from the Book of Songs:
Zigong said: “‘Poor but not subservient; wealthy but not arrogant.’ What do you think of that?” Confucius said: “Not bad, but this would be better still: ‘Poor but content; wealthy but loves the rites.’”
With this rejoinder, he is highlighting the need for Zigong to embrace the full spirit of the rites in order to avoid exhibiting any arrogance and complacency he may feel as a result of all his money. Carried out with a positive attitude, the rites thus help make sure that people don’t get too carried away with themselves and smooth the sharp edges of their character.
The disciple Youzi weighs in on the subject in Chapter XII, pointing out that: “When practicing the rites, harmony is the key.” Like Confucius, he means that people have to embrace the rites with a positive spirit so that the principles embodied in them become an integral part of their conduct rather than a set of rules that have to be begrudgingly followed. “This is what made the Way of the ancient kings so beautiful,” he adds, “and inspired their every action, no matter how great or small.”
In Chapter XIII, Youzi continues in the same vein when he says, “Reverence is close to the rites because it means that you avoid shame and disgrace.” While he’s not denying the importance of showing reverence or respect (恭/gōng) towards other people in social interactions or at official ceremonies, his point is that it limits your personal development because it only helps you to avoid potentially negative consequences. Fully embracing the rites, on the other hand, takes you to the next level in which you can conduct yourself in the appropriate way without even having to think about what you are doing.