Self-control

子曰:「不患人之不己知,患其不能也。」
Confucius said: “Don’t be concerned if people fail to recognize what you have accomplished; be concerned about what you haven’t been able to accomplish yet.”

One more variation of a previous theme: this time from Book 1, Chapter XVI and Book 4, Chapter XIV:
子曰:「不患人之不己之,患不知人也。」
Confucius said: “Don’t be concerned if people fail to recognize your merits; be concerned that you may fail to recognize theirs.”

子曰:「不患無位,患所以立;不患莫己知,求為可知也。」
Confucius said: “Don’t be concerned if you don’t have an official position; be concerned if you don’t deserve such a position. Don’t be concerned if you’re not famous; be concerned if you don’t deserve to be famous.”

The key point of all three passages is that you should focus on what you can control, namely improving your own capabilities, rather than waste time and energy worrying about matters that you can’t control. Unlike Andy Warhol, Confucius didn’t believe that everyone deserved their very own five minutes of fame.

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